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The truth is, I'm actually in a pretty good mood. Not that things have been going especially well or anything, but because the weather is nice, it's my day off, and I kind of feel that no matter what happens today at least, I can rely on those two things to be in my favor. On the other hand, I've been thinking about the two things in the topic lately, and my muffler fell off, which has left me inclined to write an entry and try to wire the motherfucker back on with a coat hanger - respectively. I don't really have any special facility with automobiles, but on the other hand, I could give a shit how well it runs as long as it does so while I'm here.
The dudely norms thing is basically what I was talking about a day or so ago. There's a huge double standard for appearance and self-image that pisses me off. I've been told that there's no way I'm actually wearing eye liner or nail polish for any reason other then to 'spook the norms' in a juvenile attempt at rebellion, and the same can go for my taste in fashion, never mind that a girl's shirt will actually usually fit me better, and that it's easier to find a S Girls then a M Guys. Having worked at JC Penny's, I'll tell you now that in every box of shirts, there's 1 XS, 1 S, 3 M, 8 L, 5 XL, and 1 XXL.
So, whatever, I have issues finding clothing. It's why I order so much online. The point is, society isn't very accepting of anyone that tends to fall even a little outside of what's expected for you. I don't have any particular desire to mess with anyone's head or draw stares, it could be that I just want to go out to eat looking in a way I like to see myself. I think this is the same sad effect, in a smaller dosage, that women run into when they're groped or accosted in public because they were dressing in a certain way. I think we've all heard the excuse that "She was dressing provocatively.... what did she expect, going out like that?" The dominant culture enforces a role on everyone that it expects us to play, and be happy playing. Bucking that trend always produces a negative reaction. It's a culture just as violent to men as it is to women, but we just are expected to play different roles.
Anyhow, that's been on my mind a little, kind of caused by some of the negative feedback lately. It's also caused my black nail polish to go largely unused; the sad little bottle sitting on my shelf next to the polish remover. Two enemies when they meet in nature... but today, I'm looking at the bathroom. I know I've said I like cleaning, but I don't like being 'the maid', because I know I'm not getting paid for this shit. I'm a clean dude, but my roommate is a slob, and even though we share the same bathroom, he totally refuses to clean it but still insists on taking up all the space. I've resorted to keeping all my hygene products in my room or in a little travel case on the toilet because he continues to take up all the cabinet room and uses whatever I put in there without permission.
Now there's mold in the fucking bathtub after he said he'd clean it. I'm just like, "Whatever. I'll clean it today, but you'll have to get used to living in filth without me. I hope you're cool with that."
I was gonna talk about cooking some, but in light of the bathroom stuff, I think I'll forgo it for now. I'll do some cleaning and sorting, then enjoy the rest of the day. ^_^
The dudely norms thing is basically what I was talking about a day or so ago. There's a huge double standard for appearance and self-image that pisses me off. I've been told that there's no way I'm actually wearing eye liner or nail polish for any reason other then to 'spook the norms' in a juvenile attempt at rebellion, and the same can go for my taste in fashion, never mind that a girl's shirt will actually usually fit me better, and that it's easier to find a S Girls then a M Guys. Having worked at JC Penny's, I'll tell you now that in every box of shirts, there's 1 XS, 1 S, 3 M, 8 L, 5 XL, and 1 XXL.
So, whatever, I have issues finding clothing. It's why I order so much online. The point is, society isn't very accepting of anyone that tends to fall even a little outside of what's expected for you. I don't have any particular desire to mess with anyone's head or draw stares, it could be that I just want to go out to eat looking in a way I like to see myself. I think this is the same sad effect, in a smaller dosage, that women run into when they're groped or accosted in public because they were dressing in a certain way. I think we've all heard the excuse that "She was dressing provocatively.... what did she expect, going out like that?" The dominant culture enforces a role on everyone that it expects us to play, and be happy playing. Bucking that trend always produces a negative reaction. It's a culture just as violent to men as it is to women, but we just are expected to play different roles.
Anyhow, that's been on my mind a little, kind of caused by some of the negative feedback lately. It's also caused my black nail polish to go largely unused; the sad little bottle sitting on my shelf next to the polish remover. Two enemies when they meet in nature... but today, I'm looking at the bathroom. I know I've said I like cleaning, but I don't like being 'the maid', because I know I'm not getting paid for this shit. I'm a clean dude, but my roommate is a slob, and even though we share the same bathroom, he totally refuses to clean it but still insists on taking up all the space. I've resorted to keeping all my hygene products in my room or in a little travel case on the toilet because he continues to take up all the cabinet room and uses whatever I put in there without permission.
Now there's mold in the fucking bathtub after he said he'd clean it. I'm just like, "Whatever. I'll clean it today, but you'll have to get used to living in filth without me. I hope you're cool with that."
I was gonna talk about cooking some, but in light of the bathroom stuff, I think I'll forgo it for now. I'll do some cleaning and sorting, then enjoy the rest of the day. ^_^
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